One of my clients described how her son was afraid to tell her that he’d outgrown his running shoes. Another said her daughter declined invitations to go to the movies with her friends because she didn’t want to have to ask for movie money. Kids understand the financial changes that occur after divorce.
How can you make ends meet and maintain your family’s lifestyle if your income after divorce is insufficient?
Child support payments are not intended to cover all costs associated with raising a child, and often fall far short. They take into account the cost of food, housing, and clothing. But they do not cover a range of other expenses from after school activities like music lessons or sport lessons to vacations, or cell phones to school supplies. These expenses rise significantly as children get older. Does everyone under the age of 18 really have an I-Phone?
The first thing to do, whether you’re contemplating divorce or are in the process of divorcing, is quantify how much your lifestyle truly costs. As a divorce financial professional, I help clients put together projected budgets. It’s important to account for as many details as possible: the cost of summer camp, rep hockey, tutoring, a computer the child will need for school in later years.
Then we weigh these financial needs against a couple’s ability to pay. Does the family income cover this budget plus a reasonable amount for the non-custodial parent? If not, can a division of marital assets help supplement the difference? Can we scale back to a bare-bones budget? Can we distinguish between wants and needs?
In divorce, financial support comes from 4 sources: Employment Income, Child support, Division of marital assets, spousal support. Each of these sources has different tax and financial consequences. Yet because household spending on adults and children is intertwined, all three can contribute to a child’s financial welfare.
I work with clients to look at the financial and tax implications of proposed child support and spousal support payments along with the proposed division of marital assets. I use software to project the short and long-term impact of a proposed divorce settlement. These projections can be really powerful.
What if you’re already divorced and find that you can’t make ends meet, a financial planner specializing in divorce can work with you to put together a saving and spending plan and help give you a holistic picture of your finances.
Wouldn’t it be nice to say “yes” to your kids once again?
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