11 Jan Retiring and Divorcing at the same time?

Thought your retirement would be like this?

Thought your retirement would be like this?

But instead it turned out more like this?

But instead it turned out more like this?

The baby-boom generation is showing that it ‘s never too late to consider divorce.  As our life span extends,  people in their fifties and sixties with better health expectations figure they have a number of good years left. Why not live them to the fullest?  That may mean ending their long term marriage and going it alone.

The problem with getting divorced late in life, is that most people find it hard enough to save for retirement and don’t imagine living off of just half of their savings, whatever they may be.

If a couple had money in the marriage, there may be enough  money to go around after divorce.  The challenge is for normal middle-class couples who just scraped by.  Or those couples who lived beyond their means.  When they try to make their house and retirement assets cover two households instead of one, there’s simply not enough to go around.  And they’re not likely to go back to work.  They may be expecting to do the things they never allowed themselves to do while they were married like join a club, travel etc.

When people are relying on a pension or savings, there’s never going to be enough to duplicate the marital lifestyle.  If you’re divorcing at  55 or 60, it may be too late to go back to work or  too late to recover financially.

If you didn’t consider that divorce would be par t of your  retirement plan,  you may want to  work with a divorce team that consists of  both legal and financial professionals. They are there to help you navigate this difficult time, both in a legal and financial capacity.

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04 Jul Boomer Divorce — Divorce Talks July 17th 2012

 

At 50 or 60, the kids may have left and  couples realize they have 30 or more years left to fully engage with, and enjoy life. If they can’t find a way to do it together, they are considering  taking the risk  of leaving the marriage.  If you or someone you know is part of this growing segment  of the “grey divorce” demographic, join us for this session.

Here are some of the  questions  we’ll be discussing :

  •     What are the factors and pressures that are changing the futures of so many?
  •     Do you worry about how dividing your wealth will affect your retirement?
  •     Do you struggle with the question will leaving be worth it?
  •     How can you access what is right for you in a professional confidential manner?
  •     Where do you go to weigh your options and decide?
  •     And should you decide to leave, how do you do it in a cost conscious way?

DATE: Tuesday July 17th, 2012

TIME: 6:30 to 8:00 PM

LOCATION: 79 Shuter St. Suite 200 Toronto

To Register go to: http://www.eventbrite.com/event/3795921704

 

01 Jun Financial Homework in Grey Divorce

When you’re considering divorce in your 50’s,    a big concern is the financial impact for you and your spouse at this stage of your lives.  If you delayed having children, they may be young and child support payments may derail retirement plans/savings. You may still be faced with funding post secondary education. You may be supporting aging parents. One spouse may already be retired.

Part of divorce is dissolving your family’s joint financial relationship. This can’t be done unless you know the total financial picture. All the facts need to be on the table so you can determine how best to separate your finances allowing both of you to make the best choices of how you will move forward on your own.

This means doing some homework in advance.  As a start, you need to find and prepare the following documents:

  • Tax returns from most recent tax years
  • Recent paystubs that show payroll deductions
  • List of personal property  such as cars, boats, valuable art, jewellery, antiques
  • Recent statement from Assets:
    • Bank accounts
    • Investment accounts including open, RRSP, RRIF accounts
    • Education savings Accounts
    • Other assets such as Stock options, other Company awards
    • Company Pension
  • Recent statements of Debts: Mortgage, Line of Credit both personal and joint, Car loans
  • Miscellaneous Info: Life insurance, Medical benefit plans
  • Business Ownership details

Doing your homework takes time.  Documents may be hard to locate. You may have to request copies from the bank or your employer. You may not have looked at some of these documents for a very long time.

You can hire a divorce financial professional to “tutor” you with your homework. They can help explain and organize it all so everyone is ready to start.

31 May Discussing “grey divorce” June 6th

Our popular “Divorce Talks” is coming up on June 6th… We’ll be discussing all the myths surrounding separation in the growing trend of “grey divorce”. If you or someone you know is contemplating divorce, have them join us. If you have clients that may find themselves in this situation, join in the conversation for more info, go to http://www.eventbrite.com/event/3496932419

15 May Financial stability is top of mind in grey divorce

From Marion Korn’s blog http://marionkorn.com/index.php/financial-stability-is-top-of-mind-in-grey-divorce/

At the time in life when incomes start to shrink and retirement is approaching, divorce costs are likely not in the budget.  A lifetime of planning for the future can be deeply undermined if emotions get the better of good sense.

Divorce among couples in their 50’s and 60’s is on the rise.  Whatever the cause, the effect is that a new strategic financial plan is needed.  Additional living costs will be a certain result.  And postponed retirement may be another.

Luckily there are good options that can control the cost of settling all the details in a “late in life” divorce.  Gone are the days when divorce meant court and the delays and expense that entailed.

Collaborative Practice (also called Collaborative Law) is a popular choice among separating couples who want to work out their futures with respect for one another.  They also recognize that preservation of their assets is key in ensuring that they can both look forward to financial stability.

The collaborative process is about management.  The well trained lawyers manage the negotiations by making sure their clients are well informed and that they have the time they need to fully understand the effect of the choices they make.

The financial outcomes are also managed by the financial professionals who can translate the clients’ thoughts and choices about their futures into numbers that illustrate the realities.

Managing the costs of separation is the first step in re-establishing a plan for the future.

Call Marion Korn at  416-915-7000 for more information about Collaborative Practice and how this approach is well suited for late in life divorce.

10 Apr Grey Divorce

In 2009, people ages 50 and older were twice as likely to divorce as their counterparts in 1990. Researchers have just begun to explore why. They know that, for many boomer couples, the kids are out of the house and it’s time to face reality. Who gets to keep what is  even more stressful at this age when  you have to consider the financial impact  this will have on the rest  of your life.

If you or someone you know is facing divorce in their 50’s, this is a  reminder that we are hosting “Late in Life” Divorce Talks on Thurs Apr 12th. Join us to hear about the what the financial  effects might be depending on whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee.

To register click here  http://www.eventbrite.com/event/2544127554

05 Apr We don’t want to go to court!!

For  couples contemplating separation or divorce at later stage of life, the costs of   prolonged negotiations that may erode assets that they’ ve set aside for their retirement  is not what they want to see happen. There are viable alternatives to costly litigation  that  allows the couple, rather than the court, to decide what is best for them.

If you or someone you know is facing divorce, join us on Apr 12  at “Late in Life” Divorce Talks.
Learn how our mediation process works and how it differs from litigation.  To register CLICK HERE

03 Apr Grey Divorce

For   “empty – nesters”, divorce is increasingly common. Though overall divorce rates have declined since spiking in the 1980s, there has been a rise in “grey divorce”.

At this stage of your life, you probably didn’t think divorce would be something you’d be contemplating when also having to consider things like investing in your business, funding your retirement, paying for your kid’s weddings or ending your working years.   The issues are significantly different than for someone in their 50’s or older than someone in their 30’s or 40’s.   You are concerned with your financial future.. can I afford to got  it alone ? How will this affect my retirement? What will I have to give up?

If you or someone you know is contemplating divorce at this stage of their lives, join us on Thurs. April 12th  for a discussion about unique issues of the older divorcing population.

Click Here for details and registration

18 Feb Who gets the RRSPs in divorce?

If you are in your 40’s or 50’s when divorcing, your retirement plans are likely to change. For many, that means splitting RRSPs. In today’s Globe and Mail article :Til debt do us part: who gets the RRSP?, I share some insights about this and things you need to understand about RRSPs and divorce.